Category: Advice

Have you always been psychic?

Go to My Story to read how I got started.

Are psychic abilities a gift?

I see all of Life as a gift. I do believe that we all have this ability – that it’s part of who we are. I’m also seeing more and more people developing this skill. You just need to learn to listen to and trust your inner voice, your higher self, your inner God voice – or whatever you choose to call it.

How can I learn to develop my psychic & intuitive abilities?

There are basically five steps that are important:
1) Willingness to have these abilities. Some people are afraid of these abilities, afraid of what they might see or feel. You need to be willing to embrace the abilities.
2) Willingness to be quiet so you can hear a deeper voice.
3) Trust what you do hear, see or feel. We’ve learned not to trust ourselves – because we think we are not good enough or that we are bad – so we might disappoint or hurt someone.
4) Practice, practice, practice. We’ve learned everything by practicing – eating, walking, talking, reading, etc. So find ways to practice these abilities.
5) Gratitude. Acknowledge yourself for being willing to develop a greater part of you, and appreciate yourself when you do get intuitive insights right.

If you do want to learn more and/or practice these abilities – we’ve filmed one of my Psychic Development workshops and created both a DVD and a CD from that class. You can find out how to order them on my “Shop” page.

Currently, I have no future plans to teach this workshop, so hopefully you’ll gain valuable information from the DVD or CD that I have out now. And if you check back on my site often, I will announce if my plans ever change.

I’m also assuming that other people offer similar workshops around the world. If you find out about those workshops and would be willing to share the information with others, please post the information on my Blog. Keep in mind that I don’t know about these other workshops so do your own diligent research to find out about their quality.

Dating Tips for Men & Woman

• Politeness, courtesy, and common sense are the first steps toward a successful date.
• Give plenty of lead time when asking for and planning a date. People have busy schedules.
• Confirm the day before.
• If offered the choice – let your date know where you would like to go. People want to do the right thing. It takes the pressure off if you are specific about your likes (food, restaurants, etc.).
• Dress appropriately for the date. If you go to a nice restaurant or event, dressing up shows you put some extra thought into the date. However, don’t wear clothes that are uncomfortable – that could ruin your enjoyment. Wear clothes that reflect the real you but are still appropriate for the event and location.
• It may be easier to choose a familiar place where you know the environment, staff, menu, etc. – a favorite restaurant where you are comfortable. Being able to offer menu ideas and suggestions to your date can be a plus.
• Men – be considerate. Opening doors or pulling out your date’s chair may seem old fashioned – but it can make the person feel important and respected.
• Wherever you go, be considerate and polite to others – the staff, your server, etc. Your tone and treatment of other individuals is a reflection of you, your relationship style, and your communication skills. Wherever you go on the date, enjoy it – don’t get overly critical or picky. Critical behavior can make your date wonder how critical and picky you could be in a relationship.
• Pay attention to your date. Put the phone or text device away.
• Avoid meeting at a place where your attention is going to be drawn to a television, a game, or anything or anyone who is going to distract you from your date.
• Be a good listener. Show interest in the person. Find something complimentary to say.
• Discuss interesting and positive topics. Learning what your date is interested in is an important step to creating a healthy relationship. It’s nice for both people to be able to share thoughts and ideas – that’s part of being in a relationship. Don’t be afraid to share your beliefs and opinions, but you don’t need to start a debate. If you want a second date, it’s best to be diplomatic and respectful of your date’s beliefs and opinions. It shows you are open to learning and growing.
• People are attracted to others who are considerate, happy with life, and confident but not boastful.
• Be honest and authentic. If you are intent on building a relationship, then honesty is always the best policy. You can do this in a kind and respectful way – not by being blunt or confrontational.
• People do not want to hear about any past lover, partner, or spouse; or any negative stories and problems in your life. People who are complainers, needy, or whiny are not very attractive to most people.
• If you are enjoying the date, let the person know. Don’t assume he or she knows how you feel.
• Thank your date for a day or evening out. Be courteous.
• Don’t get too familiar too quickly. Suggesting trips, meeting relatives, and baby names could frighten or intimidate your date. Taking phone photos can also cause concern too early in a relationship.
• When communicating online during the dating process, keep it simple, sincere, and short. Email novels sent hourly may say that you have way too much time on your hands.
• A second date gives you the opportunity to show you were paying attention on the first date. Choose a place to meet that reflects something you learned about your date. If you were nervous or not as open as you wanted to be on the first date, relax and open up on the second date. Ask and learn and share new things about yourself.
• To Google or not to Google: You can learn a great deal about people on Google but remember, it’s only a search engine. There are many facts that can be learned about a person, but it doesn’t usually reveal whether or not the person is caring and compassionate with a strong, moral character. Some might consider it invasive, but most people will use Google. Your date may use it to find out more about you too. Do your research – but also trust your intuition and feelings.

Safety Tips for Love Colors Online Dating

Love Colors Dating is designed for people who are genuinely interested in finding quality friendships, loving companions, and/or long-term life partners. We encourage Love Colors Dating members to commit time to learning more about themselves and others. We encourage giving careful thought to creating a sincere and thorough profile so the most compatible partner can be found. Take your time and do it right.

Love Colors Dating is dedicated to providing a safe, nurturing, and educational environment where you can grow as an individual and find love within a great community of people.

We encourage you to reach out and communicate with people via waves and emails. Take full advantage of our matching, coaching, and video services to assist you in your journey. And while we want you to have fun and enjoy the process, we also want you to be aware, be safe, and use common sense.

You and you alone are in control of when, and if, your personal information is ever shared with anyone on this site. Take your time to get acquainted with people in the Love Colors Dating community. Do not feel rushed or pushed to move forward with anyone, on any level or in any manner, until you feel comfortable, safe, and ready.

Love Colors Dating does not conduct background checks on the members or visitors of this website. Here are some important suggestions to protect your safety when meeting people on this site and in person:

Protect your identity
Do not use your real name, personal phone numbers, or any other personal identifying information until you are comfortable and feel safe doing so. It is always a safe choice to remain anonymous until you believe the time is right to share personal information.

Love Colors Dating uses secure technology that allows you to wave and email members without revealing any of your personal information.

We strongly recommend that you do not post your personal contact information in your profile. Do not use parts of your name, city of residence, or any other personal information in your user name. If you receive personal information (name, phone number, email address, etc.) from a member, remember that you are not obligated to use it or to offer your personal information in return. Do not share or pass on any member’s personal information.

If you choose to receive direct emails outside of Love Colors Dating, we encourage you not to use your regular email address. Set up a new email address that is used only for your online dating contacts. If you use a regular snail mail address, use a PO Box, not your street address.

Be aware of the impact your user name will have on your ability to attract a person who is genuinely interested in a relationship. Sexual connotations in your user name or email address on this site may discourage people from contacting you, or encourage the wrong element to contact you.

Blocking and Reporting
If you feel uncomfortable with anyone who is communicating with you on this site, or if you are receiving any questionable, abusive or threatening messages, immediately stop communicating and “block” the person. You may also report them to us by Contacting Us. Never send money to someone you meet online. If someone asks you for money, for whatever reason, do not do so please, report the situation to us via the “Report” button. If somebody is asking you, they may be asking others, and your report can help protect other members. To see some of the signs of a type of scam, read below. Beware of any person asking for money, donations, airline tickets, or any form of gift. Also, please report anyone suggesting that you link to a pay-to-view site or business phone number, offers to model, invitations to singles sites, or anyone attempting to sell any merchandise or service to you. Please report any such communication received to Love Colors Dating. Keep a record of your email conversations on this site. Love Colors Dating does not store copies of your correspondence after 30 days.

Safe Dating
Please act responsibly and safely when meeting someone. Whether you plan to meet a person in your home area or out of town, carefully consider these common-sense, cautionary steps:

Meet in a public place where other people are present. Do not meet at your home or the home of the person you are meeting. Do not reveal your hotel or home location.

If you are traveling to meet someone, stay in a hotel. Do not stay at the person’s home – especially on your first date.

If you stay in a hotel, use your mobile phone to contact your date to prevent disclosing your location via caller ID. Use your own transportation, or take a taxi, to get to your pre-arranged meeting site, or to and from the airport, train station, or bus station.

If your date wants to meet and greet you at the airport, you can let them know you appreciate their kind gesture, however, let them know ahead of time that you will not be joining them in their personal vehicle – especially on a first date.

Do not take valuables with you on a date. Leave them at home or in a hotel safe.

Notify friends or family members where and when you are meeting and when you plan to return. Tell your date that you have notified them.

Do your homework. Educate yourself about your date as much as possible before you meet. This is appropriate and it is your responsibility.

Be Aware of Instincts or Telltale Signs That Things are “Not Right”
If the other person can only meet or talk to you at odd hours, or talks in hushed tones, or has to get off the phone quickly, he or she may be keeping a secret (such as marital status).

Honesty is always the best policy. If a person cannot be honest with you or is hiding something, they are not worth your time.

Love Colors Dating is committed to protecting your privacy and safety. Because we do not require or conduct background checks for our members, we encourage members to do their own research on potential matches, including asking questions, using Internet search engines, using professional background checking services, and most importantly, using common sense. You and your date may wish to consider using such a service before you meet.

It is understandable for people to want to guard their privacy with people they don’t know, but if a person is vague or inconsistent in their answers, or offers many more questions than answers, you should be wary. If you are about to meet with someone, you should be able to ask and receive answers to your questions.

Be realistic – maintain good common sense. Do not rush into any arrangements. Allow time for the relationship to develop. If it is real, it will last. People can make costly and even dangerous mistakes by excitedly believing they have found love at first sight, or after having just a few conversations online. Take your time to really get to know the person.

Do not share your financial information. Beware of any solicitations. Be wary of anyone who discusses financial problems, losses, hardships, get-rich schemes, or other scams.

Here are some important suggestions to protect your safety when meeting people on this site and in person:

Love Colors Dating does not conduct background checks on the members or visitors of this website.

Do NOT send money at any time or for any reason to anyone! This is the number one reason why scammers are on Internet sites. Continue reading to see some of the more common fraudulent schemes used by scammers.

Nigerian Romance Scammers
They’re called Nigerian Romance Scammers because often they are Nigerian men posing as someone else (man or woman) on Internet dating sites. They use fake pictures and fake profiles to attract daters into a romantic relationship so that they can ask for money and/or goods. According to news reports it is a huge business.

Although it is impossible for online dating sites to proactively identify and eliminate scammers, we try our best. However, please be aware of these common characteristics of scammers and if you have any suspicions or any member asked you to send them money or goods (phones, computers, etc.), please report them to us immediately.

Common characteristics of scammers:
Profile Characteristics:

• Their profile sounds “too good to be true.” Sometimes you will find typos in their profile, but this is not always the case. However, even if their profile spelling is perfect, their emails and messages will have more typos than you would expect from someone comfortable with the English language.
• They look much younger and more attractive than you would expect for their age. Scammers often use photos of fashion models so all of their photos appear to be “staged.”
• They often state their relationship status as “widowed” in order to gain sympathy from their victims.
• Scammers typically list their location as affluent areas in the U.S. Many use Beverly Hills, Pasadena, and other affluent communities within a large city such as Los Angeles.

Message and Conversation Characteristics:

• As opposed to exchanging emails on the site for some time, they immediately ask to move to an Instant Messenger chat program. If you suspect someone is a scammer and they asked to chat on another site or platform, tell them, “I don’t chat” and see if they suddenly lose interest in you. If they do – they are most likely a scammer that realized they could not engage you to the level they needed to for making a profit.
• Scammers usually engage in conversation for several days before telling you that they are on a business trip overseas. Sometimes they will say they are working in Europe or are even working as an American civil engineer working on a road or building construction project in Nigeria. They will tell you that they will return in about a week or two and would like to meet you. However, when that time comes, either their trip will have been extended, or they will encounter an accident. Common themes include staying longer than expected, losing their wallet and having no money to return home; or being mugged, being in the hospital and needing money to be released and fly home. They ask you for money to help them get home to meet you ASAP. Some scammers may even ask for money to continue Internet access to be able to talk to you. They will try to get you to send anywhere between $100 and $500 per week to them.
• If you do engage in an ongoing conversation with a scammer, they move into a romantic relationship VERY quickly. They will often tell you they love you within a few days and may even ask you to marry them within a week or two. They will engage many hours of your day and night talking with you to get you hooked into “needing” them.
• If you speak with the scammer on the phone, please note their accent compared to what they say their nationality is. They often say they are from another country living in the U.S. But notice whether they have a Nigerian, Asian, or Russian accent. You can hear all of these accents on www.youtube.com.
• Scammers will often ask you to Skype them because they want to see you and your expressions. But, they will use many excuses why they don’t have or can’t use a webcam so that you can see them. Our advice is that if they ask you to video chat with them, refuse to do so unless you see them on video chat first.
• Asking for Money: When asking for money, scammers will request that money is sent via Western Union to a name but with a question and answer code. According to the Western Union website, this is because using the Q&A code eliminates the need for the recipient to show a picture ID to pick up the cash.
• Anyone, and yes, we do mean ANYONE who asks you to send them money or products IS a scammer. No question. No doubt.
• Although these are called Nigerian Romance Scams, the scammers can be from Nigeria, Ghana, Ivory Coast, Thailand, The Philippines, Russia, or even other countries. You will know where the scammer lives because they will ask you to wire the money via Western Union to their location.

If you suspect you have encountered a scammer, contact us immediately! If they are trying to defraud you, they will try to defraud others. Please assist us in keeping this site safe.

Tips on Photos

• Post a photo of yourself. Make sure the photo does not exceed the file size limit and is a JPG, PNG, or GIF file.
• Use recent photos that were taken within the past 6 months.
• Photos should reflect the best elements of you. Look your best.
• Be the focus of your shot – be the only person in the photo. Group photos can be distracting. Don’t post photos with a “friend” of either sex.
• Photos with animals, cars, boats, planes, motorcycles, etc. can also be distracting and are usually not effective.
• Just show you – your face – your whole face.
• Make sure your face is well lit.
• Photos taken in the mirror are not as appealing.
• Use your computer to adjust color, lighting, clarity. It’s easy to do – or ask someone to help you. With today’s computer technology, it’s easy to make a photo look good.
• Color photos are more effective than black and white.
• Avoid overly professional glamour shots – pretentious images can be intimidating.
• Avoid images where you are far away and cannot been clearly seen.
• Please post photos of yourself, not someone else.
• If you’re sincere about finding a partner (using our “Love Colors Dating” service), be authentic. Present your true self – not who you think you have to be to attract someone.

Writing Your Love Colors Dating Profile

Writing Your Profile
Writing your profile can make an enormous difference in attracting your ideal partner. Here are some suggestions to help you create an effective, fresh, and interesting profile. We encourage you to be unique, creative, and authentic.

Invest Your Time
Invest thoughtful time and energy into presenting the true you. If you don’t have time to really think about who you are and what you want in a partner or write about the authentic you in your profile, how will you have time for a relationship?

Words and Tone
The words you use and the tone you set in your profile communicate a lot about you, so think carefully about what you say and how you express yourself. We also suggest you write your content when you’re having a good day so people can see you at your best. Writing when you are frustrated, angry, or depressed could cause you to write a profile in a tone that doesn’t represent the real you – the wonderful, amazing, and unique you.

Be Creative
There are plenty of ordinary profiles filled with common, cliché statements. People often write that they like to dine out, walk on the beach, play with the dog, or spend time with friends and family. Make your profile unique. Be creative. Be original – since you are an original. Be specific about you, your personality, and the inner you, so it sets you apart from cookie-cutter profiles.

Descriptions
Use examples of who you are rather than just writing a list of adjectives that describe you. For example, rather than saying you are “funny”- show us you are funny. If you have a sense of humor, let it show in your profile. Or reveal what makes you laugh. Humor shows that you don’t take yourself too seriously and that you can be fun company. Rather than merely writing that you are a “music lover” – describe what types of music you like and why. If you are active and athletic, maybe explain why. Do you enjoy being physical and spending time outdoors for the pure joy of it? Are you interested in health and fitness? Are you competitive, is it how you release stress, or is it how you stay clear-headed and balanced? If you are deep and contemplative, describe how you spend your time and what topics you think about. If you are sensitive, quiet, and shy – reveal what you love to do and why. If you tend to be a loner, explain how and why you would share your life with a companion.

Be Honest
Don’t be afraid to be real. If you want to be with someone who accepts the real you – show us the real you. If you misrepresent yourself, once someone meets you they will quickly learn you cannot be trusted and the potential for a meaningful connection may end before it begins. It’s better to learn to believe in yourself and give people a chance to like the real you. If it takes a little longer to meet that special person, it will be worth it. This way, you won’t exhaust yourself pretending to be someone you’re not. Although it’s important to be honest, you don’t need to over-emphasize something about yourself that you may think is negative. For example, when it comes to weight you can describe yourself as large, voluptuous, or curvy.

Be Positive
Be positive about yourself. Everyone has qualities that are valuable and traits that are likeable. Be sure to include the best version of yourself. There’s no need to spend time writing things that could push people away. Avoid negative references in your profile. If you write about your self-doubt, lack of hope, past failures, or disappointments, you will make yourself less attractive to others. Complainers and overly critical people are not enjoyable as dates or partners. If you have a list of “deal-breakers” (moral, religious, financial, family, or social), mention them in a positive tone.

Share Your Colors
For additional content ideas, you could refer to the color descriptions Pamala Oslie has shared in her videos and written text to help paint an accurate picture of who you are. One of the special benefits that LoveColors offers is providing a new “language.” Members can easily learn to identify, understand, and discuss the different personality qualities of a Blue, Yellow, Violet, Red, Green, and more. Sharing your colors and describing yourself using the language of the colors can be a unique way for others to understand who you are.

Other Content Ideas
Consider adding a favorite short poem, song, or quote that could attract your favorite life color. (Be sure to credit the author.) If you want to capture the attention of a Blue, for example, adding a quote or lyric about love and romance could be beneficial. A Violet may be inspired by a quote from a great leader or humanitarian. If you want to attract a Yellow, add something funny and entertaining to your profile. You might want to approach your profile as if you are writing to your best friend – open, honest, and friendly.

Steps to Take
Create your profile on paper or in a word processing program so you can easily edit and refine it before cutting and pasting it into LoveColors. Save your document for future changes and updates. Before submitting your profile, you may want to read it out loud. This is a good way to find errors, typos, and awkward sentences. Make sure you spell check. Misspelled words are a yellow flag for people reading your profile. If you care enough to use good grammar and spelling, you will set yourself apart from those who do not make the effort. It will show you care.

User Name
Your username says a lot about you so choose something that reflects who you are. Keep in mind that creative usernames are eye-catching and can prompt a reader to click on your full profile to learn more about you. Sometimes anonymous and simple user names such as “Mary2428” or “Mick398” are effective. It is important, though, not to use any significant or self-identifying names or numbers in your username. Be aware that if you decide to be bold – “Wildwoman352” or “DareDevil99” – you will create certain assumptions in members’ minds. Be mindful of the impressions you are making.

Photos
Photos are important – they’re worth a thousand words. We offer suggestions on how to post your best and most effective photos at Tips on Photos. If you are concerned that someone you know may see your picture, remember it will be because that person is online, looking for someone special as well. Make sure your photos do not exceed the file size limit and are JPG, PNG, or GIF.

Length of Profile
When considering length, remember that short and sweet is better than a novel about your life. Yes, your life is fascinating and complex, but maybe save most of that for later conversations. Leave them wanting more, not overwhelmed. Don’t be so brief, however, that they aren’t able to learn enough about you. Find a balance – interesting and enriching, with just enough information.

Describing Your Ideal Partner
The choices you make in describing your ideal partner can have a positive or negative impact on members who read your profile. Unless there are “deal-breaker” qualities that are absolutely not acceptable to you, you may want to stay as open-minded and expansive as possible when describing your preferences. You may end up eliminating an amazing person or discouraging a potential partner from even contacting you because you got too specific about hair color or location, for example. Be upfront about you intentions. Are you looking for a soul mate, a friend, or a casual relationship? If you are looking for a simple friendship, then say that and avoid mentioning long-term relationships or marriage in your profile. Use language in your profile that sets the tone of who and what you are looking for. If you want a savvy business type, then describe your desires in a professional, intelligent, and savvy manner. If you want someone who is warm, patient, and caring – it’s best to have a warm and caring attitude in your writings.

Submitting Your Profile
It may take a few drafts until you’re happy with your profile, so write it and then let it be. Revisit it later to see how it reads. Ask someone close to you to review what you’ve done and give you honest feedback. Find out if they think it reflects the real you – and the best of you. Once you’re happy with what you’ve created, post it and see what results you get – you can always amend it later.

Don’t procrastinate or delay submitting your profile because you’re afraid it’s not good enough. You can always go back and make changes later – especially once you see the responses, questions, and comments you are receiving.